True Nature of Health

Disclaimer: I had another topic I was working on this week but this kept coming up in my conversations recently so I HAVE to share. This will probably be unedited so apologies for the grammar police out there!

Part A. 

I’m a firm believer that our mental state influences our physical body. When our health is failing, it’s because we allow it to…consciously or unconsciously. No one wants to take ownership in the fact they caused their ailments but it’s true. 

“What we think, we become.” -Buddha

For the past 6ish weeks I’ve been battling with on and off again plugged ducts from breastfeeding my son. Initially I tried explaining why they were happening because of a suspected tounge/lip tie or improper latch. Either one of these conditions could very well contribute to the situation but it wasn’t until I started addressing myself that I began to feel some relief.

Louise Hay wrote a fantastic book called “You Can Heal Your Life” (“Heal Your Body” is a condensed version with the metaphysical ways to overcome illness) and I refer to it often within my personal life as well as professional. Here is what she attribute breast issues to…

Condition: Breast Problems (Cysts, Lumps, Soreness, Mastitis, etc.)

Probable Cause: A refusal to nourish the self. Putting everyone else first. Overmothering. Overprotection. Overbearing attitude.

New thought Pattern: I am important. I count. I now care for and nourish myself with love and with joy. I allow others the freedom to be who they are. We are all safe and free.

DING! I have been struggling with these certain attributes in my life. Taking time to focus on my needs really helped balance this and guess what…My plugged ducts went away!

What a cool way to approach our health. Instead of only addressing the physical symptoms that present themselves, take responsibility for the underlying cause. Our mental, physical, and spiritual bodies are all in checks and balances with one another. If there is discord in one of the bodies then there must be discord in the others as well. Hmmm…interesting…

Part B.

When was the last time you were in unconditional service to another human? Truly in a place with no judgement or expectation.  As a healer, it’s in my nature to easily integrate this concept into daily interactions but it also allows me to witness the selfish tendencies of others. It’s also shocking to realize that those who are in a “service” roll for others and are truly not in service of that particular individual. Corporate agendas, monetary compensation, quotas, and so much more can influence one’s ability to honestly and openly serve another.

This automatically makes me think of the current western medical community…I mean doctors are often referred to as “service providers” but who are they actually serving? Now, I am making some generalizations and I am not anti-western medicine. I have met some doctors/nurses/staff that genuinely think the overwhelming number of patients dissatisfied with their medical stories speaks volumes. Everyone wants to feel heard, especially when it comes to their health, but increasingly this is not the case. 

I was just visiting with a friend who just recently welcomed her first child in a hospital setting. As she was sharing her birth experience she kept mentioning that certain healthcare professionals were not listening to her during her labor process. She felt intimidated and scared because of their lack of empathy, or more so, their judgement of “I know better because I see this everyday…” It echoed with much of the dissatisfaction I experienced in my own hospital birth. This breaks my heart as a woman, a healer, and as a human. When did experience suddenly trump the present moment? When did we stop listening to laboring mothers because “science knows better”?

In conclusion…

Any pain, illness, or disease ultimately is manifested by our own will (conscious or not). Western medicine has removed the personal aspect of their service. Therefore it is up to us to advocate for ourselves, stand firm in our beliefs, and take responsibility for the quality of care we deserve. By making informed and educated decisions, we will all live happier, healthier, and hopefully hopeful:)

Healing Birth Trauma

As a doula, I have often heard the saying “I love my baby. But I don’t love how they got here.” No new mother needs that regret, disappointment, or heartbreak on her plate. But how can we mend this? It begin with us. Every being has the capacity and inner knowledge to start the healing process.

Unfortunately there is no magical way to dictate how any pregnancy or birth will progress. But what if there was a way to a change the memory of the events that actually unfolded. Or rather the emotion behind the memory. The repair can start immediately following, or even before, the trauma instead of being stored within our cellular memories only to cause chaos later on in a persons life. Everything we experience is correlated and not by random chance. The situations we face today impact our perceptions of future events and therefore places our lives on habitual paths. 

For a woman going through a traumatic birth experience we can empathize. However, because she is able to cognitively recollect and verbalized her emotions we tend to forget that it is just as traumatic (if not more so) for the newborn. These ripples of fear, shock, and pain settle into our bodies from the start. 

What do I mean by trauma…it’s not solely about physical pain or difficulties. It includes all aspects of human existence. There can be emotional blocks that stall the progress of labor which then can lead to other interventions causing physical trauma like Pitocin, epidural, forceps/vacuum, cesarean, etc. But can’t spiritual blocks also inhibit the perception of birth? If a woman is unable to trust in her inner guidance and wisdom, or God-energy/higher self, than wouldn’t that cause emotional scars.

I’ve just recently worked with a wonderful woman that was delivered in a traumatic way. During her session, it was beautiful to witness the transformation as she forgave herself and her mother. The most profound thing she mentioned to me was that she felt immense saddness for causing that experience for her mother. She was a newborn! Nothing she “did” caused that trauma but she had been carrying that perception her whole life and it was caused by things outside of her control. When we release the heaviness of even our subconscious memories, it ripples through everyone involved during that situation. I gaurentee the mother of this woman feels lighter today because of the work her daughter did a week ago. And my client, who was never aware of how deeply rooted her emotions from her birth were, is completely changed physically, mentally, and spiritually.

For the men on the Earth, even though you won’t physically experience giving birth, you have been birthed by a woman. If you go on to father children of your own in this lifetime, your vibrational state will be passed on to future generations as well. There is healing and work to be done throughout humanity, regardless of gender, because in one way or another birth experiences impact each and everyone of us in this physical plane.

I feel like this is just the tip of the iceberg of what’s about to unravel as we continue forward in this new era of femininity and grace. Being witness to another person’s soul go through moments of healing, heals our own soul too. At the end of the day, all things are connected, there are no coincidences, and when we recognize the causes of pain and suffering within ourselves we can all live happier, healthier, and more hopeful.