New Project of 2019…Little Haven: Community Space

Vision, intention, & manifestation all coming together for this new “baby” in my life. I have always craved socialization but after becoming a mother I realized how little socialization I was getting. Outside of kid’s activities, errands, and doctor appointments I was not participating in fulfilling adult connections. My hobbies & interests have fallen to the wayside and I have lost myself in the identity of “mom”.

Not in 2019! This year I am hoping to create a unique community of local women & families who want to commit to show up for themselves because of, not in spite of, their littles.
I often talked myself out of attending yoga, art classes, and other self developmental things because
1. I didn’t want to pay for a babysitter
2. I didn’t feel worthy of “me” time…
3. I felt bringing my child would be a hindrance or frowned upon by other attendees.

Little Haven: Community Space will be a place of building non-judgmental and authentic relationships while we raise our confidence as moms, women, and kick ass people. Learning skills, tips, and techniques that help make our lives easier, safer, and most of all more fun! All the while having our children watch us show up for ourselves.

What to expect from this community:
Monthly & weekly classes, small groups, play dates, events.
Childcare included on-site during most adult oriented events.
Communal space available for parties, personal events, etc.
Opportunity to teach any skills or knowledge that you have!

What better way to teach future generations how to commit to their own happiness than by showing them how. We deserve to connect, talk, and be authentic in what interests us…so let’s create a space for just that!

More to come as this amazing journey unfolds and opportunity arises. I want to be as transparent during this time as I can…Let me know if you have any questions or want to be involved as a contributor…this is for OUR community!

Permission to be Ourselves

With the New Year comes New Beginnings. We always use this time of year to make resolutions, changes, and commitments to ourselves, our health, and others. I’ve never really ‘bought into’ this notion that it takes a specific date, such as January 1st, to allow for modifications to take place. Maybe it’s because my life is in a constant state of change and evolution or maybe it’s because the concept of date & time are losing their sense of importance for me.

The ending of 2018 and, so far, the start of 2019 has been spent in quiet, reflection & appreciation for the current status of my life. I’m enjoying time with my family and the seamless balance into my working life. I am in utter amazement as I enter my 30th year of life at what I have created in front of me. I wouldn’t have this immense awareness of the beauty I am surrounded by without permission.

Permission to be happy, sad, indifferent, overzealous, anxious, sick, funny, sarcastic, rude, sensitive, masculine, feminine, angry, emotional, perfect, almost perfect, not even close to perfect…ALL THE THINGS.

Whether we are conscious of it or not, our daily actions are affected by this concept of permission. And it starts from the day we are born…

Think about babies & children. Most parents & adults try to control when & how you sleep, eat, play, behave. We grow up in a culture of distorted right & wrong based on the perceptions of a ‘societial norm’. Well, I can tell you as someone who has never felt like I belonged in that norm, it’s very uncomfortable, especially as a young child. No one ever made me feel like I had permission to be myself. I didn’t feel safe to me ME!

Conformity only goes so far until it breaks a person down to rubble…but like the Phoenix that rises from the ashes, some of us are able to break free from this imaginary box we place ourselves in. Once on the outside though, it’s almost as isolating. There is a sense of relief & expansion but yet an underlying fear because it’s uncomfortable to ‘not fit in’.

You’ve let go of your security blanket. You may see others who have embraced this seemingly ‘radical’ idea of individuality but there is disconnect because as you are on your own path, you realize they are on theirs…It’s like waving to your neighbor when you get the mail but realizing in the 10 years you’ve lived next door you actually have never stepped foot in their house.
You’ve fought so hard to be heard, seen, and felt as an individual but all of a sudden it seems as if not one cares…and that’s the beauty.

“And then there is the most dangerous risk of all – the risk of spending your life not doing what you want on the bet you can buy yourself the freedom to do it later.” – Randy Komisar

Overcoming the urgency & demand to be important or valued has been such a learning curve for me. It’s ME who needs to respect and honor ME above all else. Once I accomplish that, I see the reflection among those surrounding me.

Give yourself permission to be, act, & do things that bring you joy (Thanks, Marie Kondo!). When life becomes balanced and you act in a harmonious way, joy will be all you ever see. No time better than the present!